Fear and Faith are two sides of the same coin, but "I Am" is where knowledge begins

Courage is not the absence of Fear, but the desire to act in spite of it.  So the opposite of Fear is not Courage but Faith.  When we are acting in Faith, we have an image of the completion of our action as a positive result.  Fear is as much a mental construct of some past or future that at present does not exist as is Faith.

Past and Future are both tied to time and so we are living as much in a creation of the mind when we say "I will do something" as we are when we say, "I wish I had never done something..."

The most effective affirmations that we can employ to change our lives toward a new existence is one that Bob Proctor and Jack Canfield often speak of.  It is simply to speak as if the thing we desire, or desire to become is already a part of our existence, and speak with gratitude for its existence.  Some examples of this type of affirmation are:

I am so grateful that I am a son of God, heir to all the promises of the kingdom as I follow His will in my life.  I am a teacher of spiritual wisdom of life and am sought by many to help them understand themselves and their place in life better.  I am a loving husband and father who leads my family by willingly doing anything I would ever ask of them, and by serving as the Savior served in his kingdom.  I am a magnet for good experiences because I am grateful for all that I have been given and ever seek to learn new lessons from all experiences that pass my way, even those that might be called bad or unfortunate by others.

We can use the faith in God that he desires for us eternal growth and expansion of life as the way to confidently be grateful for the promises he has made to us, as we seek more to do His will, or seek more to be a blessing to others through the gifts we seek or strive to obtain.

I am so grateful each day I awake next to my wonderful wife who has pledged herself to eternal growth by my side, developing an eternal friendship, and partnership as we seek together to bless the lives of others with our talents and our increasing wisdom that comes from our Father in Heaven.  I am grateful that God has given us a beautiful world full of people and experiences that are available to any who will seek a way that they may be of greater service to the world, through expansion of their own life and talents that they have been given.  I am grateful to see this principle taking hold in my life, and look forward with joy to the life that is unfolding before my eyes with my eternal companion and bride by my side.

We Must Learn to use Life's Hurts for our Good

I have recently been going through some painful realization that my marriage is not as perfect as I thought it was.  This is not as I might once have thought because of my wife’s attitude or lack of gratitude for what she has.  It turns out there are some things that I have been comfortable with that are, even in my own opinion, unacceptable levels of complacency with my financial and spiritual status quo.  It’s just that everyone reaches a limit of their own ability to tolerate something they have observed for so long, and while the initial revelation to me of these areas of concern hurt deeply to my core, it awakened something in me that needed to be awakened.

 

Many people at this point would simply allow their egoic self to put up another wall and blame others for why things have taken such a turn.  So part of the difference for me is that I truly see my marriage as an eternal companionship with my best friend, and that she is telling me things that only a best friend can get away with.  But even more deeply, I have come to understand that I am far from rid of the ego, the natural man, which I understand scripturally to be an enemy to God and to my eternal progression.  Obviously it is also an enemy to my eternal marriage, though things had gotten comfortable for a while.

 

Holly and I both know that we are committed to love each other, not just to be in love, but that we have reached the edge of the plateau we have been on and the next move is a bit of a jump to the ladder dangling from the next higher level plateau.  Leaping is scary, and holds its own dangers, but sitting down and quitting holds far more peril to both of us and our eternal union than the knowledge that I tried with all my might and perhaps failed.  We both know we cannot yet say that we have done all we are capable of and so there is the need again to take a leap of faith and move forward in faith that what the road ahead holds is more adventure and new levels of joy for a marriage that has been comfortably if mildly growing in the right direction.

 

I know change is always painful, and yet I also believe that pain is weakness leaving the body.  As we seek to rid ourselves of the egoic dominance that holds us back in so many ways, it becomes more apparent that it is not so much about throwing off any bad habits but about developing new necessary ones, which will eventually edge out through atrophy those that no longer have any use for us.

 

I see this now as a welcome and important new phase of my existence and a demand to run a little faster while I am able.