Learn the Direction of your Goal and make constant course corrections along the way

One time I was asked why my life seems so uncomplicated, which first of all, I had to admit, it only seemed to the other person to be so, for it has never actually been uncomplicated.  My answer, after brief thought however, considered the reason he had asked me, and I supposed it was because for him, life had constantly held let down after let down and nothing seemed to work long for him before it would fall apart and he would have to move on.

What I said was that some people wake up each day and they have a larger goal or destination in their mind, a purpose bigger than what they can accomplish that day, while others merely get through the day and largely let the outside events of the day dictate their overall direction.  

The second example could be likened to someone who wets their finger, tests the direction the wind is blowing and then sets their sails to go that direction.  At the end of each day their progress is only measurable in forward movement, but in the long run, they may be running in circles accomplishing nothing over the course of a week, a month or a year.  Or a lifetime.

Contrast this with the person who awakes each day with a goal (the same one as yesterday or maybe bigger) that rises above the day to day scuffle with circumstance and is measured against a goal that rises above the tree line making the daily as well as the weekly and monthly movement toward it, constant and measurable over the long run in progress toward that singular goal.

Each day, I arise with a purpose that transcends the daily or weekly obstacles that attempt to obscure my path, and because I can see the goal rising above the forest, my direction is more constant from one day to the next.  I liken this to using the celestial movements of the stars or the sun or even the mountains in the distance to help me determine the direction of my daily walk, so that in the short run as well as the long run, my direction remains constant and measurable, not only in forward progress but in less time remaining from one day to the next, to achieve my distant but constant goal.

My walk is not perfect, and at times, all I can see are the trees and the predators, but more than a few times, I hit a clearing, and the mountain comes back into view and my faith and my purpose are restored.  We are 100% more likely to achieve a goal that is planned and patterned after those who have gone before and know the way, than to follow the wind, or those who want only for the path to be fun, and care nothing for the long term results of their journey.

Consciousness is not the same as Thought

If consciousness were the same as thought, we could not actually be aware of our thoughts.  It follows then, that the constant stream of thoughts that are in most cases a natural chemical response to the constant barrage of external and internal stimulus, and not something we willed or caused to be thought.  How many times do we have thoughts we are sure could not have come from our own mind, because they reflect nothing of what we desire or want, but are simply deviations from the comfortable stream of innane and often useless thoughts that parade through our mind from morning until evening.

If we learn to observe our thoughts, and by extension the emotions that they generate, we can become more in touch with those thoughts which create or produce emotions and hence actions that we wish to change or eradicate from our daily behavor pattern.  How many times do we actually see a fight with a loved one coming simply because all the cues are falling into place and yet we do not seem to be able to stop the pattern from emerging?

This is something we can become better at steering away from by practicing the art of observing our thoughts and learning to dissociate ourselves from the ones that inevitably result in emotions that produce actions that are always destructive to our life and relationships.  By observing the thoughts that parade through our mind, we can even recognize those that seem to be inspired by the protective power of our ego, which always appears to be protecting us from hurt but which usually leads us directly into the middle of more pain and destruction of our precious relationships.

By becoming a skilled observer of our thoughts, our consciousness can eventually become more attuned also to the thoughts that lead to positive and desirable results in our lives and we can set ourselves on a pattern of repeating those thoughts which lead us to the joy we and our loved ones desire and deserve. 

Once we become skilled enough at this art of observation and only then can we begin to recognize when others thoughts and actions are contributing or attempting to revive our own ego's defense mechanisms, and by then we should be more adept at allowing those attempts to "fly out open windows" as Stephen R Covey so skillfully described the act of allowing the daggers or stones (comments) of others to pass through our windows without resistance and land softly on the ground below rather than meeting resistance of a closed window and having shards of glass resulting in cuts and mayhem to the thrower and the window.

The best observers, are the best listeners and are often those that can hear and see the reality of a situation instead of the image our chemical reactions begin to form as our thoughts attempt to steer us in a defensive course ultimately intended to protect us, but which inevitably leads to diminished love and joy all the way around.

Fear and Faith are two sides of the same coin, but "I Am" is where knowledge begins

Courage is not the absence of Fear, but the desire to act in spite of it.  So the opposite of Fear is not Courage but Faith.  When we are acting in Faith, we have an image of the completion of our action as a positive result.  Fear is as much a mental construct of some past or future that at present does not exist as is Faith.

Past and Future are both tied to time and so we are living as much in a creation of the mind when we say "I will do something" as we are when we say, "I wish I had never done something..."

The most effective affirmations that we can employ to change our lives toward a new existence is one that Bob Proctor and Jack Canfield often speak of.  It is simply to speak as if the thing we desire, or desire to become is already a part of our existence, and speak with gratitude for its existence.  Some examples of this type of affirmation are:

I am so grateful that I am a son of God, heir to all the promises of the kingdom as I follow His will in my life.  I am a teacher of spiritual wisdom of life and am sought by many to help them understand themselves and their place in life better.  I am a loving husband and father who leads my family by willingly doing anything I would ever ask of them, and by serving as the Savior served in his kingdom.  I am a magnet for good experiences because I am grateful for all that I have been given and ever seek to learn new lessons from all experiences that pass my way, even those that might be called bad or unfortunate by others.

We can use the faith in God that he desires for us eternal growth and expansion of life as the way to confidently be grateful for the promises he has made to us, as we seek more to do His will, or seek more to be a blessing to others through the gifts we seek or strive to obtain.

I am so grateful each day I awake next to my wonderful wife who has pledged herself to eternal growth by my side, developing an eternal friendship, and partnership as we seek together to bless the lives of others with our talents and our increasing wisdom that comes from our Father in Heaven.  I am grateful that God has given us a beautiful world full of people and experiences that are available to any who will seek a way that they may be of greater service to the world, through expansion of their own life and talents that they have been given.  I am grateful to see this principle taking hold in my life, and look forward with joy to the life that is unfolding before my eyes with my eternal companion and bride by my side.

We Must Learn to use Life's Hurts for our Good

I have recently been going through some painful realization that my marriage is not as perfect as I thought it was.  This is not as I might once have thought because of my wife’s attitude or lack of gratitude for what she has.  It turns out there are some things that I have been comfortable with that are, even in my own opinion, unacceptable levels of complacency with my financial and spiritual status quo.  It’s just that everyone reaches a limit of their own ability to tolerate something they have observed for so long, and while the initial revelation to me of these areas of concern hurt deeply to my core, it awakened something in me that needed to be awakened.

 

Many people at this point would simply allow their egoic self to put up another wall and blame others for why things have taken such a turn.  So part of the difference for me is that I truly see my marriage as an eternal companionship with my best friend, and that she is telling me things that only a best friend can get away with.  But even more deeply, I have come to understand that I am far from rid of the ego, the natural man, which I understand scripturally to be an enemy to God and to my eternal progression.  Obviously it is also an enemy to my eternal marriage, though things had gotten comfortable for a while.

 

Holly and I both know that we are committed to love each other, not just to be in love, but that we have reached the edge of the plateau we have been on and the next move is a bit of a jump to the ladder dangling from the next higher level plateau.  Leaping is scary, and holds its own dangers, but sitting down and quitting holds far more peril to both of us and our eternal union than the knowledge that I tried with all my might and perhaps failed.  We both know we cannot yet say that we have done all we are capable of and so there is the need again to take a leap of faith and move forward in faith that what the road ahead holds is more adventure and new levels of joy for a marriage that has been comfortably if mildly growing in the right direction.

 

I know change is always painful, and yet I also believe that pain is weakness leaving the body.  As we seek to rid ourselves of the egoic dominance that holds us back in so many ways, it becomes more apparent that it is not so much about throwing off any bad habits but about developing new necessary ones, which will eventually edge out through atrophy those that no longer have any use for us.

 

I see this now as a welcome and important new phase of my existence and a demand to run a little faster while I am able.