Consciousness is not the same as Thought

If consciousness were the same as thought, we could not actually be aware of our thoughts.  It follows then, that the constant stream of thoughts that are in most cases a natural chemical response to the constant barrage of external and internal stimulus, and not something we willed or caused to be thought.  How many times do we have thoughts we are sure could not have come from our own mind, because they reflect nothing of what we desire or want, but are simply deviations from the comfortable stream of innane and often useless thoughts that parade through our mind from morning until evening.

If we learn to observe our thoughts, and by extension the emotions that they generate, we can become more in touch with those thoughts which create or produce emotions and hence actions that we wish to change or eradicate from our daily behavor pattern.  How many times do we actually see a fight with a loved one coming simply because all the cues are falling into place and yet we do not seem to be able to stop the pattern from emerging?

This is something we can become better at steering away from by practicing the art of observing our thoughts and learning to dissociate ourselves from the ones that inevitably result in emotions that produce actions that are always destructive to our life and relationships.  By observing the thoughts that parade through our mind, we can even recognize those that seem to be inspired by the protective power of our ego, which always appears to be protecting us from hurt but which usually leads us directly into the middle of more pain and destruction of our precious relationships.

By becoming a skilled observer of our thoughts, our consciousness can eventually become more attuned also to the thoughts that lead to positive and desirable results in our lives and we can set ourselves on a pattern of repeating those thoughts which lead us to the joy we and our loved ones desire and deserve. 

Once we become skilled enough at this art of observation and only then can we begin to recognize when others thoughts and actions are contributing or attempting to revive our own ego's defense mechanisms, and by then we should be more adept at allowing those attempts to "fly out open windows" as Stephen R Covey so skillfully described the act of allowing the daggers or stones (comments) of others to pass through our windows without resistance and land softly on the ground below rather than meeting resistance of a closed window and having shards of glass resulting in cuts and mayhem to the thrower and the window.

The best observers, are the best listeners and are often those that can hear and see the reality of a situation instead of the image our chemical reactions begin to form as our thoughts attempt to steer us in a defensive course ultimately intended to protect us, but which inevitably leads to diminished love and joy all the way around.