We Must Trust Changing Ourselves

Often we decide that we can delay necessary changes in ourselves because we feel we are surrounded by people who will not appreciate the change because they don't appreciate us now.  Or we decide that even if we change, the faults of those close to us will make the change of no effect.

 

Nothing could be more untrue.  The only change of any lasting value that we can make is in ourselves.  We can inspire change in others, but typically that comes when they see us eradicate the junk from our own lives and begin to blossom.  Very often in fact, the only way we will see change in those close to us, is if we ignore their faults and work only on ourselves, with the intent of changing only ourselves.  This cannot be something we begin with the end in mind of changing others, but we can know as surely as the sun will rise, if they have it in them, they will be inspired by the change they see in us.

 

I say, if they have it in them, because some people are very set in their ways, and when accompanied by laziness, the desire to change may lie dormant in them until their dying day.

So, to change ourselves, as we shall see, is no simple prospect, however once engaged, the process of self-change can make it even easier to see why we should limit this process to ourselves, because even when we have clear and impressive motivation to do so, change can take a long time, and focused effort.

 

Sometimes, if we change ourselves, our attitude, we will be the only one that changes, but sometimes, that change is necessary to be able to manage otherwise unmanageable relationships.  As we learn to tolerate or even to find the good in all things, a principle of nature kicks in, called the Heisenberg principle.  This was formulated as a Quantum principle, but much of Quantum physics begins to be applied to our world as we learn just how much of our world is defined by our own mind.

 

Stated most clearly by Wayne Dyer in his Power of Intention presentation, "When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change."

 

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